Dating with a mastectomy
So maybe I have no clue what the hell I’m talking about.Moving on…let’s start with a don’t: DON’T get into the nitty gritty details of your BRCA mutation, of your surgery, of your breast reconstruction—whatever it is you’re discussing. She had no way to find help as a single woman looking for a relationship, wanting to know when and how to tell about her mastectomy and her disease.She wrote the book , a personal account of how she coped with these problems (unfortunately out of print, but worth tracking down in a library or a used book store).” As one might expect, the breast implants are what usually interest guys the most.Often they assume that I could pick any implant size I want, so I politely correct them (read: laugh in their face–hahaha, !According to , most couples are introduced to each other by family members, friends, co-workers, classmates, or neighbors.So look to the people you know — and tell them you'd really appreciate an introduction to a quality person, a serious date. Your social network has resources for you to tap, but you've got to let your friends know what you're looking for and talk up your hopes.
Since writing my first post in November, I am still single.
So instead of getting too detailed, I make an effort to highlight certain information about my surgery: DO stress the positives.
The biggest and most obvious positive is of course the dramatic reduction in breast cancer risk.
I don’t focus on the exact meaning of a BRCA2 6056del C mutation (which I’d be lying if I said I fully understand), nor do I obsess over the statistics associated with a BRCA mutation.
Instead, I try to deliver the details that make the most sense to understanding why I’d elect to have a prophylactic mastectomy.