Dating someone with an std
Fast forward to the next day and I get a text saying before we go any further she has to let me know that she has herpes and that if that's something I'm not okay I with I should let her know now.Which I don't think she took it well because I get a call from the friend that set us up basically calling me names and that I was shallow for "letting a girl like her get away" which confused the hell out of me because she knows what kind of guy I am and that I would never be sexually active with someone who has contracted an std.Seriously, I would strongly advise you get actual data on stds before coming to these kinds of conclusions, as most stds aren't that big of a deal.If you still don't want to risk it, that's your decision, but at least make it an informed one.If you don't have it, why risk contracting it?It's going to make the pool of people willing to date you in the future smaller - even if you don't get bad symptoms.
But it's sounding like you're implying that the disease affects your brain. And not being clear enough about that is only insinuating myth and adding to the already disproportional social stigma that already comes with this relatively harmless disease. And that friend is being shitty for trying to shame him for making a completely fair decision. The drug company stigmatized herpes (which where just called cold sores at that point) so they could sell herpes treatments, since there was no market for cold sore treatments. A combination of condoms, antivirals, and avoiding sex during outbreaks makes the odds of transmission really, really low, like 1% annually or something.But that's for other people's sake, not your own.If you mean that the stress of a diagnosis will effect you emotionally or mentally, then okay. I'm not a herpes virologist, so my numbers could be a little off, but something like 75% of sexually active adults have been infected with herpes. Sometimes people have one or two outbreaks at first, and then it never causes lesions again. BUT Valtrex is a pretty awesome drug, and if there is no active lesions, and your pert er is taking Valtrex..would be very difficult to catch. The herpes virus has been around since like Roman times.These sites offer support and hope to daters looking to connect with a positive community.Not strictly a dating site for positive singles but still the best option, in our expert opinion, Match is the acclaimed name in the dating industry.