Dating older divorced men
Masini says, “And they know quality now because what they had before, wasn’t. It’s much more about the effort that may now be involved between the sheets.
Sometimes you have to wear ill-fitting shoes to appreciate those that are a good fit.” “Divorced men can be better lovers,” says Masini. Masini explains that a divorced man who has a failed marriage behind him may be more interested in making his current relationship work.
Is dating someone who is divorced even a good idea? As someone who is a proud second wife and participant in the remarriage-to-a-divorced-guy trend, I’m here to tell you, as kindly as possible, to cool your jets.
You see, mixing, mingling, dating and eventually marrying someone who is divorced is fairly common.
The point is this: Divorce doesn’t have to cast a dark shadow on a potential partner, unless they’re still living in the Bitter Bungalow or are using you for a rebound.
In either case, you’re likely to spot these red flags a mile away — red flags that could apply to many other single partners with their own sets of issues.
As Lisa Bahar, MA, CCJP, LMFT, LPCC, of Lisa Bahar Marriage and Family Therapy, Inc., confirms, divorced men may be better in this respect because they have learned the reality of commitment.
She says, “Although there may have been heartache and anguish with the process of divorce, there is a real sense of loss — even though the marriage dissolved, the grief stages (anger, resentment, bartering, denial, etc.) tend to apply, leading up to acceptance.
From his own personal experience, Armstrong says moving through divorce provided him with outward perspective and motivation.
For divorced people, this news is fantastic since it’s much more likely that you’ll find someone eligible to date.
But for the other 50 percent of people who may not have personally experienced divorce before, it presents a whole new ball game, along with a few common questions.
Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills child, parenting and relationship psychotherapist, author of on WE tv. Fran says, “It’s better to date and partner with a man who is divorced than single because single men above age 40 generally have a fear of commitment or other unexamined and unresolved issues from their families of origin.” “Fool me twice, shame on me,” might as well be the divorced man’s motto.
For the average single woman, this means you could be sitting across the table from a man who has learned to adapt so that he does not repeat his previous mistakes.