He took me for a long romantic ride in the moonlight on his boat and we shared a bottle of wine. David: I had a really good time showing Judy the hospitality of the Ann Arbor community. He came to me for Simchat Torah, met more of my friends. The relationship was getting serious because we had explored all the important aspects of dating with marriage in mind including Hashkafa, communication, chemistry, attitudes towards money and family.I invited some friends for a barbecue and boat ride and Judy completely took over the kitchen and cooked up a storm. I came to him for Shabbat and cooked for some of his friends at his apartment. I loved watching David in different situations – learning how he handles challenges, what made him happy, what made him upset and how he expressed himself. I just liked being with her, spending time with her, and getting to know her.I had just broken up with someone, and was “available.” So was he.He said he was ready to date me for tachlis and asked if he could come in to NY to meet.It was getting harder and harder to say goodbye to him – even though we each have three children and very full lives. On New Year’s we brought his children in to meet mine. Watching him gave me a clear perspective on who he really was. His sincerity and commitment to Yiddishkeit was enthralling. I loved learning with him, talking to him, listening to him. It was time to introduce her to the rest of the family.We continued to visit each other when our schedules permitted. Judy: I visited his mother and it was a beautiful trip.It was nice to have a “second opinion” on David – all thought he was terrific.Motzai Shabbat we went on a date—finally alone together—and we asked and answered the kind of questions one would generally ask on a shidduch interview first date.
In case you’re not familiar with the word, “frum,” this is not a typo.I was honest and pointed and confronted him about some of the things that concerned me.I liked his answers and thought there was potential. Here I am meeting this nice woman for the first time.I went back on Frumster and I remembered some very friendly conversations with Judy–the things we had in common, like being disc jockeys in college.Judy: Shortly before the three weeks he contacted me again and asked if I was seeing anyone.